Couples Therapy for Thoughtful Partners Who Feel Stuck
You care about each other. You’re intelligent, reflective people. You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, talked things through—sometimes endlessly.
And yet, you keep having the same fight.
One of you pursues, the other shuts down. Conversations turn into debates. Small moments escalate quickly. Or maybe things have gone quiet—polite, functional, but distant.
You understand the pattern intellectually. But understanding hasn’t changed it.
That’s where couples therapy can help.
I work with couples and partners of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures. This includes LGBTQ+ couples, interracial couples, non-monogamous and polyamorous relationships, and partners navigating unconventional or evolving relationship agreements. I also work with creative partners.
Why Insight Alone Isn’t Enough
Many of the couples I work with are analytical, self-aware, and deeply thoughtful. You may be professionals, academics, creatives, attorneys, or people who are used to solving problems with your minds.
But relationships aren’t solved through logic alone.
Underneath recurring arguments are usually deeper dynamics:
Attachment fears (losing closeness, losing autonomy)
Old relational templates playing out unconsciously
Protective strategies that once made sense but now create distance
Nervous systems reacting faster than intention
When conflict starts, your body takes over before your insight can intervene.
In our work together, we slow the process down enough to see what’s actually happening in real time—and begin to shift it.
My Approach
My work with couples is relational and depth-oriented. That means we focus not only on communication techniques, but on the emotional patterns driving your interactions.
In sessions, I help you:
Identify your recurring cycle clearly
Understand each partner’s protective moves
Interrupt escalation in the moment
Translate criticism or withdrawal into the vulnerability underneath
Build new ways of responding that feel safer and more connected
I won’t take sides.
I will be active when needed.
And I’ll help create a structure where both partners feel heard and challenged.
Couples therapy is not about deciding who is right. It’s about understanding the system you’ve built together—and changing it.
Common Reasons Couples Reach Out
You’re stuck in the same unresolved conflict
One partner feels lonely; the other feels criticized
You’ve become roommates rather than romantic partners
Parenting or career stress has strained the relationship
You’re recovering from a rupture or betrayal
You want to strengthen the relationship before it deteriorates further
Sometimes couples come in on the brink.
Sometimes they come in early because they don’t want to wait until things feel dire.
Both are welcome.
What Sessions Look Like
Couples sessions are typically 50–60 minutes. In-person work often allows for more nuance and regulation, and I offer in-person sessions in Los Feliz and Highland Park, with telehealth available when needed.
In early sessions, we map your pattern carefully. Over time, the focus shifts toward practicing new ways of engaging with each other—not just talking about change, but experiencing it in the room.
Some couples choose to meet weekly; others biweekly depending on goals and stability.
A Good Fit for This Work
Couples therapy with me may be a good fit if:
You are both willing to examine your own contributions to the dynamic
You value depth and are open to exploring emotional undercurrents
You want more than surface-level communication strategies
You are committed to the relationship, even if you feel uncertain right now
If one partner is strongly ambivalent about staying, we can address that directly and thoughtfully.
Moving Forward
If you’re unsure whether couples therapy is right for you, I’m happy to schedule a brief consultation call to answer questions and discuss fit.
Relationships are living systems. With attention and care, they can change.